Taking that First Step
You may be feeling confused with life and wondering how you can step out of the rut you have found yourself in.
You may be feeling depressed or suffering from low self- esteem, whatever the reason, making the first step can be the beginning to hopefully finding some form of clarity and peace in your life.
There is an old saying, "When the pupil is ready the teacher will appear." No one knows who wrote this although folklore insinuates that it was from a famous Buddhist monk. Its meaning has always spoken to me in a therapeutic and personal way. I have always seen it like that when someone truly wants to change they will be ready to change.
Life in general is very fluid. Seasons come and go and years seem to pass us by as we get older.
Think of flowing water travelling down a stream. As the water flows it meets with various obstacles along the way. Nevertheless, it keeps on flowing, leading towards its final destination.
The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
We do have the capacity to change
Throughout the fluidity of life change always happens, it's a natural process. But we often find it difficult to let go of the trials and tribulations that are troubling us. Instead, we seem to hold on to them allowing them to cause us suffering. This can then create tension and anxiety leading us to feel down. Inevitably this can lead to depression.
I believe that we all have the potential to be truly happy and accept our past and present for what it is. To treat each moment as a fresh experience without holding a judgment towards it.
The next time you are out walking through a park or the countryside, take time to study the trees. Try to imagine how they were in their infancy.
Over time each new shoot becomes a branch that grows bigger creating its own new shoots that also develop into branches.
As the tree gets older it may face thunderstorms and harsh winters leading to the loss of its leaves and some of its branches. As the years pass and the spring arrives, new shoots and leaves appear as the tree continues to grow older.
Just like the trees, we as individuals try our best to adapt to the conditions that are provided to us. But we can sometimes struggle to make sense of how we are feeling and this can cause us to feel down or anxious.
We all have the ability to discover why we feel the way we do and what is making us unhappy enough to seek support. It's just like any other journey, you start by taking the first step.
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